USED AND DISPLAYED WITH PERMISSION
To whom it may concern,
To anyone who has experienced the trauma of divorce: it is as much an emotional ordeal as it is a financial one. My divorce was dramatic and with 3 young children within the tornado, almost out of control. I was “reeling”, “trying to keep it together”, as so to speak…
Having started out at mediation approximately two and a halfyears prior, Chantal’s words proved prophetic: “…If you go the litigation route, you will simply land up here later, just far poorer than before…”. I have named her “Nostradamus”!
Emotions ran high, rationality and objectivity were non–existent. Having started out at mediation, intransience between my now ex-wife and I proved VERY expensive, in every respect. To break the impasse, we found ourselves back where we started.
It hit me: the nett result was that I was going to allow a third party (a judge) to decide the rest of my life for me and then be paying him/her to do so! Your first loss (win), where you have the opportunity to control your destiny, is your best loss (win). That is: mediation.
Facing the inevitable takes courage and extreme self-control. Chantal assisted us in keeping things rational and fair – words and actions that I am well aware that you may not want to considerwhilst in the throes of divorce. Chantal, with her wealth ofexperience – understands that you will eventually judge yourself poorly after the emotions are long gone and will ensure that your sense of integrity is the final emotion remaining. For those withchildren: it’s the most valuable asset, other than love, that you can give them!
Chantal called me to order, gently and sometimes more sternly, when required. She led us through the process to the extent that the sense of trust that I developed in both her professionalism and character, gave me a sense of peace. That we were both going to get a fair deal. And me being a control freak – it was liberating and indeed akin to part of the process of “letting go”.
Chantal is as mindful as she is fair, as intuitive as she is impartial. All necessary character assets to buffer the trauma and attain the result – quickly, cost effectively and without regret. Looking back – there is little I would change – apart from the glaring obvious of taking her sage advice at the onset.
Chantal’s role within my divorce proved the sole determinant inthe settlement thereof to the extent that I thank her to this day –literally! To you reading this – let go, let Chantal…
Yours in prosperity,
Brendan Du Bruyn
Herewith this mail please find my gratitude and thanks for all your assistance to make this process better than what it was going to be…
I am grateful for your kindness, assistance and professionalization during our sessions.
1 November 2018
High Chantal , My divorce went through today. The judge today said that he has never seen such a perfect and child centered parenting plan in all he’s years.
Thank you for that.
Dearest Chantal & Team.
My divorce went through yesterday thanks once again for all your kind assistance, I could not have overcome this overwhelmingly daunting experience without you. I will without a doubt recommend your warm services to friends and family.
Thank you very much for your help in facilitating our divorce. I really appreciate your impartiality and you professionalism in handling our divorce process.
Hi Chantal,I’d thought I write out something personal to you to thank you.Thank you for being my strength when I felt so incredibly fragile. Thank you for pointing out the way for me when I just did not know where to turn. But mostly, thank you for nudging and pushing me to the place that I was afraid to go. I will never forget your words to me – that I can re-create my life. This has re-awakened something powerful in me that I’ve somehow lost over the years.Thank you for generously taking on our case pro-bono. Your gentle yet assertive manner of helping us through this life-changing transition brings me hope. I feel somehow I am surviving this and that I can and will make the next chapter of my life matter.Sincerely,Angelique – May 2017
I just wanted to thank you for treating our matter with such care and swift efficiency.
Your care and guidance will always be revered
I don’t actually know how to put the experience I have had with Chantal Kur and her company Divorce Mediations into words that truly describe the professionalism and service she delivers with such ease and absolute grace.
No divorce is pleasant but she made us feel so comfortable and explained everything in such detail that we walked out of her office knowing we have made the right decision for our beautiful daughter.
At no stage do you feel rushed, unsure or insecure about anything – she is open to discussion and I would recommend any person looking for mediation to go this route – without any doubt!!!
Thank you Chantal for all you have done for us – what a pleasure dealing with you
Di – November 2016
Selfless beyond the call of duty
Divorce can be as bad as death, disability and destitution. One is never prepared for the extreme emotional turmoil and triggers. But through the tumult, if one feels supported and heard and seen, one can find resolve.
Chantal Kur at Divorce Mediations is just that support. She sees things as they are, she keeps things real. She gIves of herself and her gifts in mediation far beyond the cash value that she charges.
And that is her greatest asset.
I am so grateful to Chantal and would recommend her to anyone needed mediation.
Tamar D – 2015
A gentle hand in dark times
Chantal Kur conducted my divorce and I can only sing her praises. Professional, gentle and crystal clear with all steps of the process. With her gentle guidance my divorce was finalised in 5 weeks! Thank you always for everything that you did for me.
Meralo – 2016
Exellent Service Recieved on 2 Occasions
I had dealings with Chantal Kurr on 2 Occasions.
Firstly Divorce Mediation in May 2014 and then a Settlement Dispute in November 2015.
On both occasions all parties involved left the table happy and satisfied for one reason… due to Chantal’s Calm Professional and Spiritual and Definitely NON Bi-as approach.
Thank You Chantal
Rudi L – 2016
LETTER OF APPRECIATION
Not too sure where to start or how to put this into words but I would just like to express my gratitude for your support and assistance with regards to the mediation between myself and Sha. As you know I applied for divorce in 2011 and have changed legal representation twice since then and was still not able to assist with getting our matter finalized.
I contacted you in November 2013 and myself and Sha met with you we had a follow up session and to be honest after our second session I had hope again that the divorce would be finalized. Had it not been for the stagnation from Sha’s side I know we would have been divorced last year already. Never the less we are currently waiting for the divorce court to call with a date and then it’ll finally be over “THANK GOD”
I will never be able to repay you for working so efficiently and for assisting me with a matter that took 4 different individuals over the past 3 and a half years to settle, you have been God sent and I will eternally be grateful to you for everything you have done for me and my kids.
I would like to take this opportunity as well to wish you and yours a safe and relaxed festive season and blessed new year
Nics – December 2014
Chantal is a very pleasant and friendly person. She immediately laid down the rules of mediation and made it very clear that there is no point in fighting and arguing as we have kids and will most likely be joined at the hip for years to come.
As our kids are the most important aspect of our lives, we have decided to be amicable about our divorce. Chantal has removed the pain and hassle factor by streamlining a parenting plan, which will suit all concerned. We have had two mediation sessions and all has been sorted. She has organized for a law firm to do the run around with the court documents saving us the trouble.
I do believe that this is the way to go about a divorce. Using lawyers is just costly and time consuming. I would recommend any couples wishing to separate, to go the mediation route. It is the least painful and most efficient way possible.
Stefan – 25th September 2014
Chantal handled our divorce mediation both professionally and without bias, and kept both parties advised of the process throughout.
I highly recommend her to anyone seeking mediation
Jan M – August 2014
Thank you for your patience and assistance in settling my divorce. I appreciate your kind hearted and professional approach. Its very seldom you meet people whom are good at and suited for what they do.
Andrew – 15 Sep. 2010
I would like to thank you for setting up our settlement agreement.
During this process your calm and caring manner have really assisted us in closing a sad chapter in our lives, and with your knowledge and guidance you alleviated much of the stress of getting divorced. I would sincerely recommend you and your mediation capabilities to any couple that have reached the end of matrimonial bliss. It was nice to be treated as a human and not just another failed case.
Thanking You Sincerely
John Kleinhaus – 18 Jun. 2010
Thank you for mediating my divorce. I found that divorce mediation is not only the cheaper option, when getting a divorce, but also quick and easy. You explained the whole mediation process so nicely to us at our first appointment. Every session thereafter you handled with empathy, professionalism and detail.
I would recommend Mediation to anyone as a first option, when getting divorced.
Ilne Muller (soon to be Nienaber) – 13 Nov. 2009
I just want to thank you for helping with the divorce, thank you for your kindness and generosity. I really appreciate it. May God bless you in so many ways.
Thank you for everything. May you have a blessed day.
Suzi van Reenen – 29 Sep. 2011
Hope you well
I like to thank you for all your assistance with regards to my divorce. I was present in Court on the 12th January, and now divorced as of that date. I will collect my Letter of Decree on the 21st.
Again thank you for all your help.
Suran – 19 Jan. 2011
I am so happy that I was eventually able to persuade my husband that we mediate rather than litigate! The process with you was by far more beneficial to both of us in that we were able to communicate with civility without resorting to the bickering and mental bashing that would have happened without you. The whole process is still very painful for me and although the divorce is still awaiting a court date, I find that I am able to deal with the situation better having mediated through it.
I will always be grateful for your help, encouragement and knowledge but above all your professionalism in dealing with our divorce and I shall recommend your services to anyone I find in need of it as I know you will help others as much as you have helped me.
Thank you so very much
Lesley – November 2014
Thank you for mediating between Neville and myself. The two sessions went very well, under the circumstances, and we have managed to resolve the agreement in a friendly manner. Appreciate your time and wonderful calm manner.
Janine – 2011
Chantal Kur assisted me with mediation and I found her to be fair, balanced and productive in her approach towards both myself and the other party during what was an exceptionally stressful time between two people who simply couldn’t see eye to eye. I would recommend her services to anyone wanting to bridge a relationship gap sufficiently to get closure in any situation, not just in a divorce situation.
I want to thank you, Chantal, for your invaluable support and assistance with facilitating the meetings held and for doing so with the greatest spirit of human
kindness in an already difficult situation. Thanks to the way you handled things, everyone was able to move forward with a sense of dignity and closure.
Rabia – November 2013
If you are serious about putting the needs of your children first, or would like a cost-effective, transparent and amicable ending to your marriage, then I can highly recommend Divorce Mediations. After years of struggling to come to terms with how to separate emotions from reality, Chantal came to our rescue in the form of an unbiased expert who knows the law inside out but is interested in assisting couples with creating a tailor-made solution for their situations. My ex and I were very worried about the emotional and financial impact our separation would have on our 2 young children, and Divorce Mediations facilitated a solution which we were both happy with, and which we believe is maintainable in the long term. We managed to come to an agreement in 1.5 sessions, and because the interests of our children were the focus of our mediation, we had no legal repercussions with the Family Advocate when we had to submit our Parenting Plan to them. My ex and I have managed to come through an incredibly unpleasant challenge secure in the fact that we did what was best for our children and each other. Thank you Chantal, for treating us with respect and compassion.
Sam – June 2011
I would like to thank you for the professional, peaceful manner in which you assisted me with my divorce. Mediation is most certainly the less stressful option to pursue with a situation that is always emotional and potentially volatile. With your steady hand and fair approach, we got through our agreement negotiations with only the minimum of stress. In addition, you might like to know that I followed your clear, concise instructions regarding the filing of paperwork at the court, and on the day of my court appearance, mine was the only divorce granted. This is thanks to you, I followed your instructions to the letter and all my paperwork was in order, resulting in no trauma at all with the final step and a huge saving in attorneys fees.
Thank you, I cannot tell you how appreciative I am of everything you did for us.
Carol – 2 Nov. 2011
My ex-husband and I came to you in March to sort out our divorce. Not sure that I ever thanked you for what you did for us and for me, but I do thank you, so thanks! The past 9 months has been interesting and I am in a good space now.
As a result of my divorce, and getting back into dating I have met a number of married, separated and divorced men. I must say, that having met all these people in various stages of separation, I have been amazed at how long it all gets dragged out for, often even by the person requesting the divorce in the first place. I have handed out your name and number to many people who have been amazed at how quickly and “easily” it can be done. People are astounded that my divorce took 20 days from start to finish.
Thanks so much for your assistance earlier this year — you will never be forgotten.
Althea Crundwell – Dec. 2012
Just wanted to let you know that everything went very smoothly in court today, and the judge ordered the decree of divorce with no hesitation. He seemed to be suitably impressed with the paperwork, which was all in order, unlike the advocates who were representing other clients before my case was called up. I was so impressed that he did not find fault in our settlement agreement that you drew up.
I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for being an outstanding mediator who puts in the extra effort to show her clients special attention. I am so relieved that I found your contact details through Kelly, who was also kind enough to accompany me today to the court.
Thank you again for an awesome job done.
Chantal Moser – 25 Sep. 2012
Thank you for your assistance with getting through my divorce proceedings. When I first made the decision to get divorced, I was overwhelmed with where to begin, what to do and how to have the conversation with my ex-husband about the important matters, children included. You guided me through one of the most difficult processes of my life thus far. I appreciated your step by step approach; and having followed it exactly as you recommended, I have completed this painful process with minimal trauma.
Thank you very much.
Marcia Small – Nov. 2012
Thank you so much for your professionalism and caring spirit when you assisted with doing my divorce settlement.
Because of you, I was born again?you gave me a second chance to rebuild my life. May God richly bless you. Its amazing how through such a delicate process, you gave me a chance to be born yet again? You gave birth to me.
Zaba – 3 Apr. 2013
To whom it may concern,
I wish to recommend Chantal Kur, She has an amazing talent of being able to handle the most difficult circumstances with grace and compassion. I know from experience that she truly cares for the people she is mediating with. She will go the extra mile whenever she can and has on countless occasions taken a knock financial and emotionally just so that her clients can receive the care and hours that it takes to sort out any problems they may have. If you put your lives in her hands during this difficult time I can assure you that she will hold your hand and walk you through this difficult time of your life. Her agreements are so well done that when my sister went through her divorce I watched couple after couple having their agreements out while Chantal’s went though with no questions asked and she had a minor child in the mix.
Jennifer Maritz – Jul. 2013
I got my divorce decree today.
Thanks so much for your patience and making that go away so quickly. I am very grateful and happy about the way things turn out and I enjoyed meeting with you. Keep up the good work cause you are the best!
May God bless you more,
K. Tsie – Nov. 2013
Thank you so much for mediating my divorce, if it wasn’t for you…i would still be fighting for what i want. Thanks to you for assisting me in a way i never thought possible.
Lawyers doing divorces are just financially driven…you are driven to help others.
Aricshia – Feb. 2014
Thank you for your assistance in previously reaching a settlement. I thank God for this process and service you offer.
However I pray to God that less and less couples do not have to get to this level (I hope you hear my heart).I do not
wish any couple to separate.
Your service has however made the process, respectable and manageable. Again I thank you.
Tshepo M – Nov 2015
I trust you are well. Compliments to you. I just want to say thank you so much for everything you have done for me with regards the divorce mediation. It’s been 2 years now and life has been hectic BUT calmed down now. I have met someone and things are going well. Thank you again for being great support and drive for me.
Pinkz – Jan. 2016